Saturday, July 13, 2013

#14 Trip Reflections (part 3)

We decided to try to leave the guest house by 8:30 on Friday morning.  Our driver was supposed to be there for us and we were headed to the Orphanage.  I was READY!  Well, to be honest emotionally I was ready but well… the morning did not work out as planned. 

In the guest house there are several rooms, each sleeping different numbers of guests.  My room could hold up to four guests, but I was the only one in my room and my room shared a bathroom with two other rooms on my floor.  The four girls shared a room with its own attached bathroom.  Then the one guy on the trip had his own room with a shared bathroom, though I think he was the only one in a room using that bathroom during the time I was there. 

We planned to eat breakfast at 8:00, so at 7:20 I was up and in the bathroom.  When I got in there I locked the door and put my things down only to realize that I had left my towel in the bedroom.  So, I attempted to go back to get the towel.  Key word?  Attempted.  Herein lies the problem.  As I attempted to unlock the door, the door remained locked.  Panic rose up in me.  So I brushed my teeth and tried again.  No luck.  I went to the bathroom and tried again.  No luck.  I tried and tried ‘til my hand was sore.  The door remained locked.  And I wasn’t sure what to do.  The only thing I could thing to do is what I did, I started banging on the door.  After a couple minutes another guest on the floor with me (thank goodness they were still in their rooms) heard me and came out.  He went to get the guest house host.  I slid the key under the door (the key is used to lock & unlock the door both from the inside and outside).  But it did not work on the outside either.  I was stuck.
I sat on the side of the tub.  I just shook my head and smiled – only to keep from tearing up.  The three on the team who were stuck with me in Chicago had joked about us being “Job” and as I sat there I began to wonder.  I prayed too.  I prayed for God to open the door.  I was moments away (ok probably a couple hours away but you get the idea) from seeing my daughter and I wanted OUT.  As I sat there Alayu worked on the door.  He ended up first banging out the handle and keyhole area.  The door remained locked.  Finally after being stuck in the bathroom for 55 minutes he broke the molding on the side of the door and the edge of the door enough that the door finally opened.  I thanked him profusely and inwardly promised myself I would not lock another door while I was there.  (On a side note another one of the team ended up locked in a bedroom after I left as well.  Not sure what it was with those locks…). 

Now I had another problem.  It was 8:15 and I was not ready nor had I eaten breakfast and the driver was to arrive at 8:30.  I rushed over to the girls’ room to shower and did my best to get ready and eat as quickly as possible.  At 8:40 we left the guest house.  I was relieved. 

To the best of my recollection from last year it took about 45 minutes to get from the guest house to the Orphanage.  So, that was my expectation.  But as time drug on it became clear that 45 minutes was no longer accurate.  It felt like traffic was so much worse than last year.  I confirmed this fact several days later with a family living in Ethiopia.  Apparently there is a lot of road construction going on with a new railway going in and every week more roads seem to be closed down due to the construction.  So, yes, it took longer to get there due to the traffic.  It took nearly an hour and a half.

The entire trip my mind was consumed with three things.  1) I was looking at scenery for anything familiar.  2) I was going over my Amharic phrases I had learned.  And 3) I was playing out the scene I imagined that was about to take place, the scene where I would see my daughter for the first time in over a year.  I had so many questions.  Would I cry?  Would she cry?  Would she run out to me?  Would it be weird or amazing?  And there was the niggling doubt in the back of my mind that kept recurring… what if last year was all in your head?  What if she doesn’t want you?  What if you imagined it all?  I had been pushing this fear aside for a while.  I knew it was from the Deceiver.  And yet it was there with me even then.  During the past year I had placed that fear at the feet of my Redeemer.  I asked Him to show me what was true.  I believed He had, and I believed She was MINE. 

Then.  We.  Arrived.

We pulled into the Orphanage through the gate.  I saw very few kids.  As the van came to a stop and we started to get out the kids started coming out, mostly boys at first.  They were giving hugs and greeting us.  I recognized many of them from last year, though I didn’t remember their names.  After what felt like forever something caught my attention, and I turned around.  She was standing there, just steps away.  It was surreal.  The next thing I knew we were hugging and I had lost it, tears falling down my face.  Her hair was wet and I realized why she had not been there when we first came through the gate.  She was getting ready.  She was preparing herself to see, well, me.  The team told me afterward that I wasn’t the only one emotional they were too.

The next two hours were overwhelming.  I spent nearly all of them with Her in the room she shares with 4 other girls.  The first thing she did was paint my nails, purple, a favorite color for both of us.  I shared the items that I had brought her that I put in my carry-on.  I gave her the ‘H’ necklace my sister-in-law Jaena had so thoughtfully purchased for her.  I gave her a card Abi had made and a photo book I had made.  I had other things to give her, clothing, art supplies and school supplies but they were in my checked luggage who knows where at that point.  We took pictures.  We played games.  It was priceless time.  Time I will treasure forever. 

All too soon lunchtime came and we left for a local hotel to have lunch.   It was a nice time and the owner came to greet us.  He invited us to stay for a coffee ceremony.  This is an Ethiopian tradition when guests arrive (or leave).  It was very kind of him.  Then we asked him about his establishment.  He showed us around and an idea crept into our minds.  What if we just stayed here, at the hotel, while we were working at the Orphanage?  It was less expensive and we would have little to no taxi expense.  In addition, we would be able to be with the kids longer since the commute would be so much closer.  We were all interested in pursuing the idea as long as 1) our luggage came in that day and 2) we were able to not have to pay (or at least not have to pay all of) the costs for the nights we would be gone from the guest house.  With that in our minds we headed back to the Orphanage for the afternoon.

The afternoon was more of what the morning was like, plus soccer and crafts.  As was the case last year, my camera, and this time my IPhone, where absconded on several occasions by kids, to return to me with interesting photos.  The kids also at some point during our days at the Orphanage found the games on my phone.  Temple Run and Fruit Ninja were favorites.  The Orphanage also had a coffee ceremony for us, complete with sweet popcorn, another traditional feature of coffee ceremonies.  Wonderful memories.

Around 4:00 we received a call from Alayu.  The airport had called and our luggage had arrived!  We were beyond excited!  Around 4:30 we headed out to get back to the airport and then to head to the guest house.  At the airport after a bit of time our luggage was located and we headed back to have dinner at the guest house.  We also spoke with Alayu who decided to let us out of half the cost of our lodging so we could stay closer to the Orphanage.  It was a deal.  We called Kassa, the owner of the hotel and made arrangements.  The girls would be staying in a bungalow with 2 bedrooms – one with a double bed and one with two twins.  I would stay on the couch in the living room.  Robbie would have his own separate room.  It was set.  We’d stay at the guest house that night, then head out to the hotel and Orphanage the next morning. 

Then we had dinner that night at Yod Abysinnia, a cultural restaurant with Ethiopian food and dancing presentation.  I have been every time I have been to Ethiopia.  It is a treat.  Of course at this point I love the food J and sometimes the college students don’t share that love.  But the experience is still worth it and I wanted to make sure that they had that experience while I was in town.  So it was.  We headed home before the show was over because we were all still exhausted from our trip there and now also from playing hard all day with the kids.
It was quite the day.  So much had happened.  Locked in a bathroom, time with my daughter, retrieval of prodigal luggage, a cultural dinner, and new plans for the next three nights – my last three nights.  My trip was nearly half over.  My heart was already beginning to grieve the separation I knew would be coming in four days.

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